Beware of Choosing What Isn’t Choosing You
Beware of choosing what isn’t choosing you.
Okay, believe me here. I could write a big ol’ post about relationships and how we try to hustle for love. But I think the greater wisdom that is here for us is about control and trust.
When we’re attempting to control or force an outcome—a relationship, a job, a living situation, money, etc.—we often abandon nature and some element of ourselves. I refer to this as my Soul Credit Card. I have maxed that thing out in the name of potential so many times, convincing myself that once I got what I wanted, the person or situation or accomplishment would pay off my energetic debt. I honestly can not think of a single time where that credit card was paid off by anyone or anything but my exhausted, anxious, devastated post-hustle self.
Not one single time.
I engage in this pattern anytime I refuse to trust myself.
Trust and surrender are contrary energies of control. Let’s be clear—trust and surrender are not about doing nothing and hoping that you’ll get what you wish for. They are about honoring yourself and your life in such a way that you remove any and all blocks that are preventing the things you are seeking from arriving in your world. It’s about facing yourself, your short comings, the habits that don’t serve you and devoting yourself to the holy challenge of making different choices. It’s about aligning yourself in the direction of your best life, and trusting that what is meant for you is on it’s way. It’s about learning how to co-exist and flirt with the magic of the Universe.
Here are some ways to practice trusting yourself:
Make a small commitment to yourself and keep it. This can look like meditating for 5 minutes a day, leaving your phone outside of your room while you sleep, or putting all of your clothes away when you do laundry.
Follow through on a gut instinct. Even if it’s a small one.
Set yourself up for success in areas where you usually cave. For instance, if you are going on a date but don’t want to sleep with them right away, make a promise to yourself to stay in public places.
We tend to believe that trusting ourselves is about right and wrong choices, but that isn’t true. Trusting ourselves is about allowing ourselves to follow our inner guidance without attachment to the outcome. Doing this builds our trust muscle with ourselves, it creates a habit of literally listening to what our soul is asking of us