Your Feelings Are Not Wrong

The fastest way to emotional freedom and person reclamation is to fully honor the feelings that are coming up for you without making them wrong.

Read that again.

There is some bonkers energy in the collective right now, and nearly all of my clients and many of my close friends are going through MASSIVE transition—breakups, divorce, job changes, death, you name it. When the rug gets yanked out from under us, when we’re ungrounded, when our emotions feel like a tsunami of psychological fuckery, we grasp for dear life. 

In that grasping, we often try to control how we feel. We judge our feelings. We ‘should’ all over ourselves. 

Not only is this unloving towards our hearts and our tender uncertainties, but it keeps us stuck on repeat. The essence of the feminine is to flow big, to feel big, to express big. It’s honoring the need to take up as much space as possible, to not be too much for anyone or anything while doing so.

To make our emotions bad—to only allow them if they are right or justifiable, or if they fit into the mold of what we’re conditioned is acceptable—is to repress the sacred authenticity of our lives. 

Stand in the glory of your badassery and let yourself exist as a brag. Feel jealous about your ex and their new lover, about the people on Instagram with cooler clothes than you, about your friend that makes more money than you could ever imagine. Let yourself rage about having to be an adult, about the things you don’t want to do but feel like “first world problems”, about the way you weren’t loved the way you needed to be as a kid. Feel the full extent of the crush you have on your co-worker, the annoyance you’re experiencing because you just want alone time, the debilitating boredom you notice when you watch your kids play sports.

You don’t have to hurt anyone. You don’t have to act on your feelings. You don’t even have to tell anyone what you’re feeling. But your emotions are yours. Own them.

What do you need permission to feel? 

What kind of container do you need to be held in? 

What can you shift in order to gift this to yourself?